According to new research, Rochkind’s ideas about sexy bikini babes are correct. A multipart study from Harvard University, University of La Verne and Santa Clara University researchers found that beautiful people are more likely to be involved in unstable relationships . In one part, the researchers looked at the top 20 actresses on IMDb and found that they tend to have rocky marriages. In another, women were asked to judge the attractiveness of 238 men based on their high school yearbook photos from 30 years ago. The men who were judged to be the best-looking had higher rates of divorce.
Fast forward a few months, I'm back in the States, maintaining that relationship, but not exclusive, when another young guy swoops in- this time 33. A fast paced, very hot relationship ensues- which I later break off, because what I truly want is someone my own age, with grown up kids like me, someone urbane with some life lessons under his belt. But on dating sites, literally the only men to reach out to me, again are much younger- 30s & sometimes 40s. Why? I don't have the first clue, but I guess for now, I'm just going to enjoy the ride.
The erosion of marriage harms not only the immediate victims, but also society as a whole. A Brookings Institution study found that $229 billion in welfare expenditures between 1970 and 1996 can be attributed to the breakdown of the marriage culture and the resulting exacerbation of social ills: teen pregnancy, poverty, crime, drug abuse, and health problems.  A 2008 study found that divorce and unwed childbearing cost taxpayers $112 billion each year,  and Utah State University scholar David Schramm has estimated that divorce alone costs local, state, and federal-level government $33 billion each year.